3 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Men
1. Men want sex.
Most people respond to this statement with a rolling of the eyes or a shaking of the head to indicate waning patience. But, it is truly a misunderstood reality. Most think it is a self indulging base need on the part of the man. It goes deeper than that.
Men want to be desired by their wives. It is an integral part of a man’s self image that he needs to be physically wanted. Regular, mutually fulfilling sex is paramount to a mans sense of self and security.
For further details see Washington State University, Dr. R.F. Talflinger, on sex and self esteem, May 1996.
2. Men do not infer.
The critical thinking ability required to make inferences is a skill women assume men have. However, in An Examination of the Relationship between Critical Thinking and Academic Success on a University Campus, researches Steward and Al-Abdula quantified the actual differences between males and females in this area. Male subjects demonstrated an significantly high need to be able to infer to perform at the same academic level as females.
In addition men do not pick up on nonverbal cues as well as women. If a man does something that a woman does not like she should tell him what it is that she does not like. Dropping hints and making disapproving looks will not communicate the message (WNBC, December 2006 “Why Men Never Remember”).
3. Men feel a duty to provide.
Men are hard wired to feel the onus to provide for their family. It does not matter that in society today the woman may very well be a bigger wage earner than the man.
Although, a woman can not change this mentality they can relieve it by offering appreciation and encouragement for the contribution the man makes (The Fragile Male Ego, September 2006).