What if I am a Melancholy With Phlegmatic Tendencies?
Anyone who expects you to have confidence in their ability to provide any insight into your life needs to meet your expectations for competence. They must be more knowledgeable than you, otherwise you would be able to take care of things from your own position. They need to be legitimate and a display of their diplomas and certificates would be a good start to establishing their bona fides with you. They need not attempt to pacify you with insincere hugs, pats on the back or shoulder touching. You prefer the professional approach.
You are by and large a private person and you require some quiet time each day to regenerate your energies. This does not mean you do not enjoy socializing. In fact, you do enjoy social situations, you are simply selective in who you trust will enough to socialize with. If pressed into contrived social situations you have a tendency to approach interacting with unfamiliar people as you would approach a task. You look for the most efficient way to interact with them and move on.
You don’t like ill used time. You much prefer to work at a steady pace to stay ahead of demand rather than waiting for the impending deadline and working through the pressure. In fact, the threat of pressure holds no motivating factor for you at all. Instead you resent the poor planning of those who now require work to be conducted in a pressure situation.
You would gladly adopt the mantra, “Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part,” if you felt the poor planners would have any concept of what you meant by it.
Those who choose, by action, deed or word, to insult or offend you should do so at their own peril. You have no problem what-so-ever with finding a way to meet out retaliatory justice for past crimes. This is true even if you must be somewhat passive-aggressive to accomplish it. In your mind pay back is not a female dog; pay back is a logical consequence.
Moody people bring you down and you would rather not deal with them. Nothing so annoys you as someone who constantly goes about bemoaning their lot in life. Your philosophy, “Life is a do-it-yourself-er, get over it.”
No one, not even you, meets your standard of perfection. This causes you no small amount of distress. You must learn to accept that though we all must strive for perfection, falling short is not failure.
You are compulsively independent and self motivated. You don’t push yourself onto others and you would appreciate the same courtesy, thank you very much.
You are a true proponent of “Truth, Justice, and the American Way!” By this token, you demand truth, order, reliability and dependability from those you trust. In fact, you can be somewhat rigid and uncompromising at times.
You don’t overtly show much affection. That is not to say you don’t care, it simply means you believe the proof should be in the pudding. If you care about someone you prefer to demonstrating it through action, or doing things for them. In fact, if you believe someone is being overly affectionate you feel crowded or put upon.
What you wish people knew about you:
- you need your “space.”
- too many people about stress you.
- you prefer clearly defined tasks.
- you have a temper.
- you prefer to work in your areas of competency.
- others should take responsibility for themselves.
- you prefer to receive your criticism and feedback in private.
- truth, reliability and dependability are paramount values.
What you need to know about yourself.
- people don’t know you care about them if you don’t tell them.
- if you share your agenda and schedules with others they won’t see you as so cold.
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