What if I’m a Melancholy Phlegmatic/Supine Melancholy?
As a Melancholy in inclusion you may find that you prefer to your own thoughts and reflections to more frivolous interactions. You often take comfort in your private and serious nature when those you know are caught up in the ”drama” of life. In fact, when you don’t purposefully take private time to regenerate you find yourself becoming impatient with others.
You typically approach very few with the aim of association and socialization and, truth be told, would truly prefer like consideration. A well performed task brings you as much satisfaction as many social encounters. And so, you approach people as you would approach the completion of a task. Which is to say, you seek the most efficient way of working with them.
Because of you hands on mentality your mind will rarely let you rest. When a difficulty arises you play it over in your mind in a continuous loop in an effort to find your error or divine a solution.
Your intense drive for perfection in others as well as yourself can be very off putting and can get out of hand if you don’t stay cautious.
What others need to know about you:
- you don’t like your possesions borrowed without your permission
- you don’t appreciate having contrived socialization foisted upon you
- you must have quiet time to recharge
- you take everything people say very personally
- you will use dry, cutting humor to keep those away who come too close
What you must know about yourself:
- you must learn to trust others
- you must learn to express your desires directly
Your phlegmatic/supine tendencies in control make you appear very independent even though you don’t always feel as such. You don’t seek control over others and won’t accept their control over you.
You have a love for “the rules” and can become quite rigid if challenged.
As a melancholy in affection you neither show nor desire public displays of attention. As a result, you don’t often have the opportunity to develop deep relationships. Those you do invest your trust in are invested for life. Even if their behavior doesn’t warrant your continued acceptance you find it difficult to sever long held ties. You are loyal and faithful to a fault, even knowingly allowing yourself to be taken advantage of by those whom you trust.