What do Inclusion, Affection and Control Mean to Me?
Everyone has the same basic underlying emotional needs. At the seminal level these needs can be identified as Inclusion, Affection and Control. If you understand the essence of your needs and how you can meet them in positive ways you can meld the elemental truths of psychology, philosophy and practical knowledge into a scaffold you can use to secure your own success and nudge others along the path to their success as well.
Inclusion is the amount of desire to be included in the practice of every day life juxtaposed against the tolerance you have for others to be included in your life. Striking the perfect balance in this area gives one the feeling of wearing a perfectly tailored suit. It is just showy enough to display your best features without betray your faults.
Affection is the realm of self that balances your desire for affection with your tolerance for displays of affection and your comfort level with displaying affection yourself. The perfect balance achieve here can be likened to meal that leaves you completely satiated with feeling gluttonous.
Control is the area in which your desire to exert control over others and your environment melds with your tolerance and desire to be controlled or taken care of by others. The perfect balance here brings to mind the metaphor of a perfectly match team of horses. Neither can pull the load of life alone but together the exertion of their contained power is a glorious thing to behold.
By keeping this spectrum of balances in mind through out our daily lives we can make conscious decisions that bring us our most self actualized moments without infringing upon the needs of others. In so doing, your obvious natural abilities will be enhanced and you will begin to attract those experiences and opportunities that allow you to continue to add to your repertoire of ever greater successes.