Aspects of Confrontational Behavior
I’ve been working for many years in the field of behavior disorders and emotional disturbances. The aspect that most captures the attention of most people is confrontational behavior. The odd thing is, I see so much of it that I don’t notice it that much. That is bad. When you lose too much sensitivity to an issue you run the risk of being less effective in teaching better replacement behaviors.
Occasionally, I take time to review the precepts and thus reoriented myself to the key issues. As it is time for my self reflection I am sharing the exercise with you so that you may gain some insight into the issue.
Finally, I must often remind myself that confrontation in and of itself is not a maladaptive behavior.
First, what are the reasons some do not react in a confrontational manner to severe stressors?
- fear of rejection
- fear of consequences
- fear of losing control
Next, what are down fall areas of a lack of confrontation skills.
- uncontrolled outbursts
- emotionally damage
- altered sense of reality
- public failure
Who are those who are successful with the skills of confrontational behavior.
- diplomats
- leaders
- business persons
How can confrontational behaviors be utelized in a positive manner.
Before Confrontation the individual must engage in Introspection.
- why are you upset
- what do you desire
- what is the root
During confrontation the individual must maintain respect for the other party.
- time and place
- one to one
- calm
- mutual purpose
- body language
After confrontation defined actions must be put in place.
- agreement
- follow up