The Eyes Have It
Through the years a great deal has been written about the eyes and their impact on human behavior.
We use phrases like, “She stared daggers at me,” “He had a gleam of mischief in his eye,” “She has bedroom eyes,” or “He gave me the evil eye.” When we use these phrases we are referring to the impact of the eyes on the behavior of others.
In reality there are three basic types of gaze:
-Social
-Intimate
-Power
The Social Gaze is a nonthreatening scan of the invisible triangle created by connecting the eyes to the upper lip. If you maintain 90% of your gaze in this area you will be perceived as nonthreatening and amicable.
The Intimate Gaze is the “up and down” utelized when approaching the opposite sex. The longer this gaze lingers the greater the demonstration of potential interest. This gaze moves from the eyes all the way down to the lower body and back again.
The Power Gaze is an inversion of the Social Gaze. This gaze travels from the eyes up to the center of the forehead. The longer the attention is focused to the area above and between the eyes the more intimidating the effect on the the recipient of the gaze. The impact of this technique must be felt to be believed. Use this gaze only on a person you need to intimidate or stop in their tracks. It is a powerful technique.
Elemental Value Added Truth: Look in the mirror. The face that pins you with its double gaze reveals a chastening secret.
Diane Ackerman